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Book Summary: The Road Back To You Summary Ian Morgan

The Enneagram Journey to self discovery

1 A Curious Theory of Unknown Origin

“The Enneagram is an ancient personality typing system. It helps people understand who they are and what makes them tick,”

there is no scientific evidence that proves the Enneagram is a reliable measurement of personality.

Most folks assume they understand who they are when they don’t

“They don’t question the lens through which they see the world—where it came from, how it’s shaped their lives, or even if the vision of reality it gives them is distorted or true.

Even more troubling, most people aren’t aware of how things that helped them survive as kids are now holding them back as adults. They’re asleep.”

2 Finding Your Type

THE NINE PERSONALITY TYPES

TYPE ONE: The Perfectionist. Ethical, dedicated and reliable, they are motivated by a desire to live the right way, improve the world, and avoid fault and blame.

TYPE TWO: The Helper. Warm, caring and giving, they are motivated by a need to be loved and needed, and to avoid acknowledging their own needs.

TYPE THREE: The Performer. Success-oriented, image-conscious and wired for productivity, they are motivated by a need to be (or appear to be) successful and to avoid failure.

TYPE FOUR: The Romantic. Creative, sensitive and moody, they are motivated by a need to be understood, experience their oversized feelings and avoid being ordinary.

TYPE FIVE: The Investigator. Analytical, detached and private, they are motivated by a need to gain knowledge, conserve energy and avoid relying on others.

TYPE SIX: The Loyalist. Committed, practical and witty, they are worst case-scenario thinkers who are motivated by fear and the need for security.

TYPE SEVEN: The Enthusiast. Fun, spontaneous and adventurous, they are motivated by a need to be happy, to plan stimulating experiences and to avoid pain.

TYPE EIGHT: The Challenger. Commanding, intense and confrontational, they are motivated by a need to be strong and avoid feeling weak or vulnerable.

TYPE NINE: The Peacemaker. Pleasant, laid back and accommodating, they are motivated by a need to keep the peace, merge with others and avoid conflict.

DISCOVER YOUR DEADLY SIN

ONES: Anger. Ones feel a compulsive need to perfect the world. Keenly aware that neither they nor anyone else can live up to their impossibly high standards, they experience anger in the form of smoldering resentment.

TWOS: Pride. Twos direct all their attention and energy toward meeting the needs of others while disavowing having any of their own. Their secret belief that they alone know what’s best for others and that they’re indispensable reveals their prideful spirit.

THREES: Deceit. Threes value appearance over substance. Abandoning their true selves to project a false, crowd-pleasing image, Threes buy their own performance and deceive themselves into believing they are their persona.

FOURS: Envy. Fours believe they are missing something essential without which they will never be complete. They envy what they perceive to be the wholeness and happiness of others.

FIVES: Avarice. Fives hoard those things they believe will ensure they can live an independent, self-sustaining existence.

This withholding ultimately leads to their holding back love and affection from others.

SIXES: Fear. Forever imagining worst-case scenarios and questioning their

ability to handle life on their own, Sixes turn to authority figures and belief

systems rather than God to provide them with the support and security they yearn for.

SEVENS: Gluttony. To avoid painful feelings, Sevens gorge themselves on

positive experiences, planning and anticipating new adventures, and entertaining

interesting ideas. Never satisfied, the Seven’s frenzied pursuit of these

distractions eventually escalates to the point of gluttony.

EIGHTS: Lust. Eights lust after intensity. It can be seen in the excessiveness they evidence in every area of life. Domineering and confrontational, Eights present a hard, intimidating exterior to mask vulnerability.

NINES: Sloth. For Nines, sloth refers not to physical but to spiritual laziness. Nines fall asleep to their own priorities, personal development and responsibility for becoming their own person.

3 Type Eight: The Challenger

Lead me, follow me, or get out of my way.

I have been told that I’m too blunt and aggressive.

I enjoy a good verbal skirmish, just to see what others are made of.

Justice is worth fighting for.

Too often, your intensity and lust for life runs the show.

Give a friend permission to tell you when you’re going overboard or exhibiting

extreme behaviors. Remember, “Moderation, moderation, moderation.”

4 Type Nine: The Peacemaker

You cannot find peace by avoiding life.

I’ll do almost anything to avoid conflict.

Sometimes I get lost in doing trivial tasks, while things that really need to get done get put off

I’m happy to go along with what others want to do.

Journal on the question “What is my calling or life’s program? Am I pursuing it or postponing it to keep the peace?”

Practice saying no when someone asks you to do something you don’t want to.

Don’t be afraid to have opinions and express them

5 Type One: The Perfectionist

People have told me I can be overly critical and judgmental.

I beat myself up when I make mistakes.

I don’t like it when people ignore or break the rules, like when the person

in the fast lane at the grocery store has more items than allowed.

Perfectionism is the voice of the oppressor, the enemy of the people.

Resist the urge to give other people to-do lists or to redo their tasks if you

think they haven’t met your standards. Instead, catch the people you love

doing things right—and tell them how much you appreciate them for it

If you find yourself procrastinating, think about the reason why. Are you

reluctant to get going on a task or project because you’re afraid you won’t be able to accomplish it perfectly?

6 Type Two: The Helper

When it comes to taking care of others, I don’t know how or when to say no.

I feel drawn to influential or powerful people.

I want you to be happy, but I want to be the reason.

Rather than hinting at your needs or leaving it to others to figure them out, try telling them directly.

Don’t reflexively say yes to everything.

sometimes you think you are serving God or other people when you’re actually not

7 Type Three: The Performer

It’s important for me to come across as a winner.

I love walking in a room and knowing I’m making a great first impression on the crowd

The keys to my happiness are efficiency, productivity and being acknowledged as the best.

The real question is, can you love the real me? . . . Not that image you had of me, but who I really am.

Challenge your definition of success, and craft a new one based on your

feelings, desires and values, not those inherited from family or culture.

8 Type Four: The Romantic

If you’ve ever had that feeling of loneliness, of being an outsider, it never quite leaves you.

I like things that are unconventional, dramatic and refined. I’m definitely not a fan of the ordinary.

In social situations I tend to hang back and wait for others to approach me.

Beware of self-absorption. Listen to others when they share stories about their own suffering, and realize it’s not just you.

9 Type Five: The Investigator

I think I am, therefore, I am. I think.

I can take care of myself, and I think others could do the same.

I don’t always say things out loud, but in my head I am pretty sarcastic and cynical.

I often feel awkward around other people.

Try sharing more of your life with others, trusting they won’t misuse that information.

10 Type Six: The Loyalist

There’s no harm in hoping for the best as long as you’re prepared for the worst.

I’m always imagining and planning for the worst.

I often don’t trust people who are in authority.

When my partner and I are doing really well in our relationship I find myself wondering what will happen to spoil it.

Practice accepting compliments without deflecting them or being suspicious of the motivations behind the praise.

11 Type Seven: The Enthusiast

Just think of happy things, and your heart will fly on wings!

I’m always the first person up for a last-minute adventure.

I am an optimist to a fault.

I don’t like making hard and fast commitments to things.

Almost everything can be more fun and entertaining with a little effort.

You suffer from “monkey mind.” Develop a daily practice of meditation to free yourself from your tendency to jump from one idea, topic or project to the next.

12. So Now What? The Beginning of Love

The beginning of love is the will to let those we love be perfectly themselves.”

We owe it to the God who created us, to ourselves, to the people we love and

to all with whom we share this troubled planet to become “saints.” How else can

we run and complete the errand on which God sent us here?

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