Book Summary: The Gifts of Imperfection Summary Brene Brown

The Gifts of Imperfection Brene Brown Bio

  • Born November 18, 1965, a Scorpio
  • Research professor in The Graduate College of Social Work at the University of Houston
  • Brown’s 2010 TED talk – The Power of Vulnerability – is one of the top five most viewed TED talks in the world, with over 35 million views
  • Other books she have written are  Daring GreatlyRising StrongBraving the Wilderness, and Dare to Lead

The Gifts of Imperfection Brene Brown Ted Video

The Gifts Of Imperfection Book Quotes

1.Once you see a pattern, you can’t un-see it

2. Our minds are engineered to seek out patterns and assign meaning to them

3. The universe is not short on wake up calls, we just hit snooze button too fast

4. Live our lives from a place of worthiness. No matter what gets done and how much is not done, you are enough

5. Go to sleep admitting you are imperfect, vulnerable and afraid. But the truth is you are Brave and worthy of love and belonging

6. Being courageous means putting our vulnerability on the line

7. Everytime we choose to be courageous, we make everyone around us a little better

8. Compassion in Latin means to suffer with, it’s a relationship between equals

9. The heart of compassion is acceptance of who we and other people are

10. Be kinder but firmer. Stop blaming and practice accountability instead.

11. Stop shaming and scolding other people, but let them know the consequences gently.

12. Don’t attack people for who they are, focus on correcting their behavior instead.

13. The more strongly connected we are with someone emotionally, the greater the mutual force.

14. The greatest challenge for most of us is believing that we are worthy now, right this minute. Worthiness doesn’t have prerequisites.

15. We are worthy of love and belonging now. Right this minute. As is. NO Ifs or When !

16. We are biologically, cognitively, physically, and spiritually wired to love, to be loved, and to belong.

17. We cultivate love when we allow our most vulnerable and powerful selves to be deeply seen and known

18. Love is not something we give or get; it is something that we nurture and grow

19. Belonging is the innate human desire to be part of something larger than us.

20. True belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance.

21. Showing love is more than saying “I love you”, it’s about how you treat people

23. Honest conversations about shame can change the way we live, love, parent, work, and build relationships.

24. The less we talk about shame, the more control it has over our lives

25. Shame is basically the fear of being unlovable—it’s the total opposite of owning our story and feeling worthy.

26. Shame keeps worthiness away by convincing us that owning our stories will lead to people thinking less of us

27. shame loves perfectionists, it loses power when it is spoken

28. Authenticity is the daily practice of letting go of who we think we’re supposed to be and embracing who we are.

29. We need to cultivate the courage to be imperfect, to set boundaries, and to allow ourselves to be vulnerable

30. Practice being authenticity but don’t make people feel uncomfortable but be honest

31. Be real by saying what’s on your mind but don’t upset anyone or hurt anyone’s feelings

32. Sound informed and educated but not like a know-it-all

33. Don’t say anything unpopular or controversial but have the courage to disagree with the crowd.

34. Practice authenticity and speak our mind, our unexpressed ideas, opinions, and contributions don’t just go away. They are likely to fester and eat away at our worthiness

35. Perfectionism is not the same thing as striving to be your best.

36. Perfectionism is not self-improvement. Perfectionism is, at its core, about trying to earn approval and acceptance

37. A moment of self-compassion can change your entire day. A string of such moments can change the course of your life.

38. Be warm and understanding toward ourselves when we suffer, fail, or feel inadequate, rather than ignoring our pain or flagellating ourselves with self-criticism.

39. “There is a crack in everything. That’s how the light gets in.” So many of us run around spackling all of the cracks, trying to make everything look just right.

40. Being resilient involved the belief in connection, a power greater than  self, and interconnections grounded in love and compassion—

41. Practicing spirituality brings a sense of perspective, meaning, and purpose to our lives

42. Spirituality is recognizing and celebrating that we are all inextricably connected to each other by a power greater than all of us, and that our connection to that power and to one another is grounded in love and compassion.

43. Hope help us to be resilient. Hope is a combination of setting goals, having the tenacity and perseverance to pursue them, and believing in our own abilities

44. Hope selftalk = This is tough, but I can do it !

45. Practicing critical awareness is about reality-checking the messages and expectations that drive the “never good enough” gremlins.

46. Advertising is an over $200 billion a year industry. We are each exposed to over 3000 ads a day. Yet, remarkably, most of us believe we are not influenced by advertising. HAHA !!

47. Advertising tell us who we are and who we should be. Sometimes they sell addictions.”

48. We cannot selectively numb emotions. When we numb the painful emotions, we also numb the positive emotions

49. Whether we’re overcoming adversity, surviving trauma, or dealing with stress and anxiety, having a sense of purpose, meaning, and perspective in our lives allows us to develop understanding and move forward.

50. The dark does not destroy the light; it defines it. It’s our fear of the dark that casts our joy into the shadows.

51. Listen to our intuition or sometimes it tells us what we need to know; other times it actually steers us toward fact-finding and reasoning.

52. Learn to have faith, Faith is a place of mystery, where we find the courage to believe in what we cannot see and the strength to let go of our fear of uncertainty

53. “The risk of losing myself felt far more dangerous than the risk of letting people see the real me”

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